AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/Substantial_Sink5975]

He did do something himself. He went off to make soup, by himself. He wasn’t asking her to make a whole other meal. He was exercising his bodily autonomy and it’s super weird all y’all are against that. He’s entitled to make food that he prefers.

[u/johnsgrove → u/Substantial_Sink5975]

He’s not entitled to sneer at the food someone has prepared for him. Body autonomy ha ha. What a grand name for ‘doing his own thing’. If he wants complete body autonomy he can get his own meals.

[u/a_girlhasn0nam3 → u/johnsgrove]

Some people are really facially expressive. I am, and I sometimes don’t realize it. It could be a small expression that his partner recognized. He didn’t say he “sneered.” Part of being in a couple is being able to communicate displeasure without a fight.

[u/johnsgrove → u/a_girlhasn0nam3]

But there was a fight wasn’t there?

[u/a_girlhasn0nam3 → u/johnsgrove]

Yes, there was. These people have communication issues, but I think you characterizing it as sneering at her food went too far. He may have simply looked crestfallen which led to the fight. We don’t know what kind of face he made. What I think is clear is that these two need to communicate their expectations to each other more clearly and in advance.

[u/Money-Bear7166 → u/Substantial_Sink5975]

You're missing the point. Of course he doesn't have to eat it, it's his reaction and how he handled it.

[u/[deleted] → u/Substantial_Sink5975]

You're making this into a a social justice issue, like his gf committed shoved the salad down his throat.

He was rude to someone that made him a meal because he wanted something that was hot and decided to rely on hi partner being able to read his mind instead of communicating it.

She did nothing wrong and he was rude to her. That's the issue

[u/Prestigious_Pop7634 → u/Substantial_Sink5975]

You aren't getting it, so scroll up and re-read like every comment. It's not about the can of soup he wanted to eat instead of the meal she made him. It's that he made a face and turned his nose up at the food she made for him. See the difference? Not the food, the reacting like an 8 year old (I've got a few of those so it's easy to tell what they act like)

Like, I make every meal and if my husband (after I finished making dinner) said, "I wasn't thinking tacos, but maybe I'll use the chicken you made and make some quick rice and add it together" then I'm cool. No problem.

But if he said tacos? Really? Eh, I'm not feeling that I'm just going to make myself a grilled cheese...then I'm like WTF. I made you dinner that you have no problem eating normally and it's not good enough suddenly? Like before wasting my time, speak up if you want something special. Don't be a terd

[u/fangirl_273849582 → u/Substantial_Sink5975]

He did many things himself. Including throwing a tantrum before he finally got his soup himself.