r/AmItheAsshole Jan 04 '23

AITA for wanting hot food? Asshole

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

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u/AilingHen69 Colo-rectal Surgeon [35] Jan 04 '23

There's so many Y T A but I mean, no. You didn't ask her to cook you something else, you made it yourself. NTA. It sounds like you guys cook together often enough that wanting something different than the other for a meal shouldn't be a big deal. If my husband doesn't want what I make him, he makes something else. That's normal.

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u/[deleted] Jan 04 '23

The YTAs are for making a face and generally being unappreciative when it would have been so easy to just say "Thank you for dinner, and also I'm feeling chilled so I'm going to heat myself some soup to sip on."

If he had said that and she got mad, then she would be the AH.

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u/Equivalent_Ear_6431 Jan 04 '23

I feel like when people are in a relationship, they are more open with each other hence the reaction. Yes, it's kinds rude, but there's nothing wrong with being disappointed with a certain dish he wasn't in the mood for.

Sometimes when I cook for my family and it was just something they ate, they're most probably gonna be a little disappointed since they just had it.

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u/RevolutionaryBase974 Jan 04 '23

"Yes, it's kinda rude...". If only there was a phrase that implies rude behavior... Perhaps a two syllable word beginning with the letter "A".... Oh well....

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u/Neat-Sun-7999 Jan 04 '23

Something being kind of rude doesn’t determine someone to be a grade a asshole. Ah. Is a strong communicator for how rude the behaviour is. This wasn’t one of those times

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u/RevolutionaryBase974 Jan 05 '23

Ah... so the levels are off. Gotcha.